I am a stay-at-home mom -- and I'm damn proud. Even though I was only a small time into my pregnancy it was a child and one that I never got to hold or have. The money that I earn from this is going to savings, so we can pay things off. By Jennifer Pinarski Oct 11, She can go into more detail if needed on the cover letter or during the interview. How do I know?
Yes, I am a Stay at Home Mom Article Series When my first child was born, I will admit that I didn’t feel prompted with the most challenging decision many women face when they have their first: the decision to pursue my career or to be a stay at home mom.
So, what do stay-at-home moms do all day?
The book spoke to me, and my mother and grandmother spoke to me warning me not to tread the path they had taken, leaving the workforce after their children were born. But the book and my mother spoke to a young ambitious preteen, not a young mother.
Betty Friedan or not, I stayed home for almost two decades raising three sons. And on one level I felt like I was short-changing myself, those who educated, trained and believed in me by doing this. But living in the suburbs among women of shockingly similar backgrounds, interests and aspirations, narrowed the scope of people with whom I interacted. In the workplace my contacts and friends included both genders and people of every description, and I was better for it.
Some of this work was deeply meaningful and some of it trivial in the extreme. It is very easy to feel as though you are doing something whether it is sitting on a hospital board or raising funds for a nursery school. Volunteer activities involve a flurry of activity but, at the end of it, those who are running the organization carry on and your job is over.
Being around my children so much of the time gave me the chance to focus on them at a granular level. And I feel fairly certain that neither they nor I benefitted from the glaring light it shone upon us.
Helicoptering takes time, and I had the time. If I had worked outside our home I would have still worried about them but might have confined my concerns to more substantive matters. Before our children were born and when they were young, my husband and I did the same job. We left in the morning together and came home together to stare at each other and at our small children through a blinding haze of exhaustion.
Just as I mastered every new computer it would be whisked away and replaced by newer faster models. I have kept up with technology but not in the aggressive way I once did in my job. In my world I often use my young adult kids as tech support and endure their snide remarks and eye rolling, knowing deep inside that at one time it was very different.
But far and away my biggest regret about my years at home was that I lowered my sights for myself as I dimmed in my own mind what I thought I was capable of. My husband did not do this, my children did not do this, I did this. In the years that I was home I lulled myself into thinking that I was accomplishing enough because I was. They were proud of what they do, but never condescending.
In many way, their chores were similar to mine, and included mundane tasks such as making calls, doing paperwork, running errands, cleaning and talking to people who ask too many questions. Yes, stay-at-home moms have an incredibly difficult, unpaid job that to some people looks like a riotous vacation full of pillow forts and cupcakes.
And on some days it is. But to say that stay-at-home moms have the most important job in the world and that all of civilization will collapse if moms return to the workforce is an exaggeration.
We take care of many of those day-to-day tasks, but raising thoughtful, moral humans lies with families and communities. For example, I stayed home for one year with my son, then he was with three different daycares over the three years I was a working mom, and finally he started kindergarten. Do I sometimes feel like I cheated my son by going back to work? What makes them super kids is that I surround them with awesome, loving people. Putting stay-at-home moms on a pedestal, like Walsh suggests we should, drives a wedge between working parents and those who have chosen to stay home.
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