Learn to concentrate on one, and then the other. Letting go and prioritizing are so important, but I love how you insist on layering parenting on top of your lofe, not supplanting your life with parenting. The other thing I try to do is to touch my writing every day. Since I went to work at 5: I live with my boyfriend and have for 3 years , but he went back to school for engineering.
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By having an outlet for my creativity and interests—separate and independent from my child—I am able to care for her with more energy and enthusiasm.
I need this outlet in addition to the rewards of parenting, which is why this format is perfect for me. Another element of our parenting philosophy is encouraging independent play. As a curious month-old, she adores inspecting every corner of every room and dragging toys around to new and different locations. She entertains herself well and puzzles through how to use complex toys on her own. For this reason, we fully babyproofed all of the main rooms of our house.
What we hope is that this will engender independence, confidence, and resiliency in our daughter. My inspiration for the independent play ethos: Caring for Infants With Respect. Working full-time while caring for a kid full-time is probably not going to happen and expecting to do so will lead to gnashing of teeth and dismay. I also find that some weeks I get more done than other weeks.
Sometimes Babywoods skips naps. Or is sick and wants to nap on me. Or we have tons of places to go and people to see. As an entrepreneur and self-employed person, you have to be ruthless in how you structure, price, and calibrate your work.
Despite all my planning, scheduling, and routine-following, sometimes everything blows up and our days are a hot mess. Accepting imperfection in every facet of my life has granted me peace. This is also why I like to get tons of work done when the getting is good. This is why I love my editorial calendar—when I finish all my tasks for one week, I just move on to the next week. I do my best not to militate against the phase of life we find ourselves in. For example, we do not take Babywoods out to restaurants for dinner.
Because that would not be setting ourselves up for success. She goes to bed early, she eats dinner early, and dining out at dinnertime is a terrible idea although lunchtime totally works for her. Having immaculate hair and clothes and makeup does not matter to me and so I spend very little time getting ready in the morning anyone who has ever come over to my house can attest to this….
Having a clean home, however, is a great deal more important to me, so I spend some time cleaning every day. Hiking , on the other hand, is a staple of my everyday routine.
However, before embracing the extreme frugality lifestyle, I found that far too often, I was doing the things I thought I was supposed to do. That I thought society expected me to do as opposed to what I wanted to do with my life. As we discussed last week, frugality gives you options.
First, I love the honesty here! That is so true, we have 5 kids and have seen our share of hot messes. Frugality allows my wife to stay home with our children. So we are so lucky that frugality can let us support 7 people and still save! Nice work on thinking through things, and not subscribing to the parenting myths.
As a father 4 weeks in to caring for a child I wish I had this advice earlier. Letting go and prioritizing are so important, but I love how you insist on layering parenting on top of your lofe, not supplanting your life with parenting. I always have a hard time getting go since I want everything to be under my control. This realization has also helped our marriage too. My wife is doing something similar.
I will point out though that a lot of the ability here is child dependent. My youngest is on a schedule. At two he still takes a one to two hour nap and is often content to self play. Thank you pointing this out. I think it can be hard for people who have kids who sleep well and play independently to understand that not all kids have that temperament. Thank you for mentioning, I think the only caveat missing in this excellent article is that it is highly child dependent. My first was not a sleeper, neither night nor in the day.
Apart from not having any time in the day, I also had no energy from constantly broken sleep. My second is totally different, responds very predictably and I started working from home by the time she was 3 months. We had every book and expert try to help with my first, but truly sometimes it is just the child.
It definitely depends on the kid! Our first was a non-sleeper too and there is just no way to work around that. We tried everything, every book, every method someone suggested but to no avail. You can totally work around a kid like that. As a newborn she only would sleep on me during the day. It was the hardest thing I have ever dealt with.
Every child in different. Our first born was always on a schedule, the second one was very different. When she was a few month old, she could only sleep around half an hour in her bed during the day.
She wanted to be in my arms all the time, so I was making a lot of chores wearing her in a wrap. When I finally got my daughter to nap in her cot and for decent periods of time I was getting so much done. Then at 12 months she started to transition to 1 nap and suddenly my 2. You are very fortunate in your work as you said but luck only gets you so far—you work hard as a freelancer to keep those opportunities open. This is such a timely post.
I love your posts! Great post and I applaud you for not trying to do 2 things at once. I have to admit how shocked how many of them parent and work at the the same time. As a former home child care provider, I can say with all honesty, planning ahead is just not apparent to some working parents!
Breaks, teacher work days, Illness and snow days, over the years I have seen parents freak out! I have had calls asking what time does school open? What time is dismissal? When does summer break start! Planning, being organized is essential if you want to have a happy, healthy family.
Interesting comments about the conference calls. I had a coworker who worked from home with her kids underfoot, and she would occasionally be on a conference call with kids being kids in the background, or even be distracted dealing with them in the middle of the call.
Unfortunately for her, management and colleagues did notice. It was seen as unprofessional and annoying — disrespectful to her busy colleagues keeping them waiting while she attended to her kids or subjecting them to the distracting background noise.
I guess it depends how many conference calls you have to be on while you work from home?? I also agree with above comments — the natures of some kids will allow for this type of arrangement, other kids… not-so-much. But if you can make it work successfully, good for you! FW watches Babywoods—it is really tough to be on a call with her in the background. I wish I had read more blogs like this while I was pregnant!
I manage a remote team from home for a large global corporation that has afforded me lots of flexibility but now as a thirty four year old first time mom with a two month old getting ready to go back to work I am realizing that my original plan to work from home with my baby was a bit naive and none of my working mom friends or colleagues had the heart to tell me so I am suffering the shock of forfeiting one third of my income to childcare along with the anxiety of placing my child in the care of strangers.
I like to write. I need to explore this freelance thing. I have the added burden of being the primary source of income.
My husband does warehouse work. He just graduated with a BFA in Photography and is working on building his website to build his passion as a supplementary source of income. Thank you for sharing your routine!!! I do like daycare because it taught me as a kid how to be independent and make friends.
For now, I think daycare would be the best option for us. My husband and I did not complete a movie together until our son was I stayed at home for three years with our two kids, but when the youngest was seven months old, finances forced me back to work. Planning is a huge part of parenting — even as a SAHM, I planned my housework, baking bread days, laundry days, and extra chores like window cleaning, because otherwise, none of it would get done.
Once I went back to work, the planning was just cranked up a notch or two. The good news is now I get to look back on those days and laugh. And help my kids with their kids when THEY have those days. Planning is so vital!!! Thank you for sharing! What a wonderful post! I worked from home as a freelancer after the birth of my first child, until the day my second child was born, using many of the strategies and structures you suggest. With two little ones I knew it was going to be too much for me, and having low expenses compared to our income allowed us to forego a second income for this season.
I still get to write here and there, but without too many deadlines, and use free time more for volunteering and family recreation. My daughter is two today, whoohooo! She now goes to nursery 15 hours a week mainly for her to socialise, but I worked from home during her naps and in the evenings from when she was about three months old. It worked well for us. Mrs through the woods, just reading through this I wonder what your thoughts are on eating all together in the evenings.
We recently switched from a schedule like yours to eating our dinner with our daughter at 6pm. This feels ridiculously early to me though traditionally in the UK lots of people would eat at that time. But it is working amazingly well. She gets to reject all kinds of delicious adult food in favour of marmite sandwiches.
And I no longer prepare two dinners. Then while my husband gives her a bath I do the washing up before putting her to bed. And then the evening is my own! It was only after I switched us all to eating at the same time that it occurred to me that at some point children usually start eating dinner with their parents!
We are big on the idea of family dinner—Mr. FW and I both grew up eating dinner with our families every night. We will certainly transition to that as she gets older. This only works if your child naps. My son rarely napped more than 50 minutes at a time. And he switched to one, no more than one hour, nap at 1 year.
She is now 7 years old and still wakes up about 5: Sleep is not on her agenda! My daughter has been exhausted for the past 7 years. She returned to a full-time job since her child was 5 years old. Wishing you luck with your child..
I do love Mrs. Frugalwoods posts and positive energy. In our family, we have a great system too that we are lucky to have. My mom watches our son in exchange for a free place of living.
This is a blessing in so many ways because he still gets exposure to germs hello pets! Another big reason I wanted grandparent childcare—I never had a close relationship with any of my grandparents, so I was big on this for my son. What a wonderful situation! Such a blessing for you, your kiddo, your mom—sounds like a win all around: I just wrote about this very topic on my own blog: This post is so timely for me and I know will resonate with so many of my readers.
I plan to share! Thanks for a great read and for all your thoughtful advice. This is a great post and points out many of the unique qualities of the FW situation. My husband started working from home as a steel salesman when our first child was born. We decided I would stay at home when she was born, and then, thankfully, my former boss allowed me to work from home 10 hours per week.
Over time, as I learned how to manage motherhood and working, I was able to increase the hours gradually so that by my fourth child I was able to work 30 hours per week flexible hours!
I also finished my doctoral dissertation during that time it was very helpful that the doctorate tied in with my work at a university research center. My husband turned down some advancement opportunities that would have required him to be in the office. Less money and less stress is definitely worth more family time. Frugality allows that choice to be made. We love your blog! Keep up the great work. Lots of practical tips here. I freelanced from home four years ago averaged articles per day and had an editing position and all was well until baby 2 came along haha!
I managed for a bit, but ended up cutting back. Then, I got a full-time mostly WFH job. They went to preschool in the mornings so I was good then, but that afternoons were a bit too chaotic for my liking. Now, three kiddos in tow. My older two ages 4 and 3 still do morning preschool. We are having so much fun! I blog part-time; when something needs to get done, I always make it work.
I love what you said about how you make time for what you want to do. Your arrangement sounds perfect!! Best of luck, Mrs. Thank you for sharing this! Flexibility is the only constant with kids: This is such awesome advice! Absolutely love the part about prepping in advance of nap time so you can hit the ground running when Baby Frugalwoods sleeps.
I currently work outside of the home but typically work from home a couple of days a week. Hubby is a pastor so he works from home a lot as well. We have an 11 month old who was a micro preemie he was born at 25 weeks that I am fiercely protective of and do not want to put in daycare.
Between the two of us and a little help from family we are making it work without day care- been there done that with two older children who are now in elementary school day care was more than our mortgage at the time. I have an impending job loss next spring and know that I will have difficulty finding a job with the same flexibility. Currently trying to figure out if I can grow my small business and freelance from home once the job ends while taking care of the baby.
This post gives me a lot of hope! I quit working full time when our kid was 18 months old. I worked when he napped and after he went to bed. He stopped napping when he was 2 years old. It was harder to work at home after that, but soon he started preschool. This is very timely for me, because I was recently laid off with young children.
Frugality has given me the gift of being able to look at this as an opportunity to remake my time in a way that works better. So far that is looking like part-time work, largely from home, so that I can spend more time with them. That smile is so genuine, she looks like such a happy baby!! I love the combination of Babywoods and Frugal Hound — such an innocent, joyful pair! Thank you so much for this post! This is exactly what I needed to read. This makes me more optimistic that it IS possible, especially with a supportive partner.
All my best to you and I hope you get that positive test soon: Basically, thank you for addressing all of my getting-pregnant-related anxieties! So glad you are making it work! I work full late days when my boys are with their dad. When they are with me, I try to pick up school-day shifts. I can often score a nice job, or maybe half fa day of substitute teaching.
I am hoping to find a more permanent gig, which might mean needing more after-care, but for now being able to pick them up from school is priceless. I was exhausted mainly because my health is bad but I remain so grateful that I got to spend so much time working my job and still spend quality time with our kiddo.
When ze needed more social activity and socialization with others, and zir energy outstripped my limited stores, we transitioned to a part time daycare schedule and that was pretty awesome too. I shared this in detail in this mini-series here http: This is so great! I am working 40 hours at home and my son is about to turn one. It has been pretty horrid, but I just work late into the nights.
The stress comes from being accountable to my co-workers and of course my son at the same time. Slings and carriers for dishes and chores and showers together make life much more efficient. It sounds like you also have a wonderful set up to get Baby Frugalwoods community time, SUCH an important thing to prioritize I believe.
As a working-full-time-out-of-the-home mom-of-a-preschooler, I struggle a lot with trying to get everything I want to do done. I have this post from last summer which outlines a typical day for us and is still fairly accurate, although Babywoods is down to two naps as opposed to three.
We also home schooled. I took my babies with me to births, and as they got older, our 2 oldest girls would come with us and watch them. We set up our full size vans as a play house or they would play in a quiet basement, and on one memorable occasion, had a fancy RV set up with food, movies, and all kinds of conveniences.
Thanks for linking to my site as an MLM resource. It might be better to link to my MLM category page, but I like to cover a lot of other personal finance stuff. Two of the main things that we agree with or follow in our household: We felt like every time we got on a good routine with our son now 3 , it would change. This is a very interesting topic. She had an ooops kid with her boyfriend, now husband, and no longer travels at all. Only one kid, yet insists nothing has changed since she had her kid???
I find we lived very low key lives and I never once for a second pretended that we would have the same life after kids. I eagerly looked forward to my life changing. Wow, having kids is sure great for frugality. Great tax deductions, free entertainment, and they cost next to nothing. I work better under time constraints, as well.
I love that you keep nap time sacred for writing. I did want to echo what some of the other parents have said: And when the kid is sleeping you are so shell shocked and exhausted it is all you can do to get through the day. My arrangement is certainly unusual for most — I work full time outside of the home all day in a demanding job, and my husband is a stay at home dad. I love your points about doing what works, and how that can change over time.
As the mom of three boys, ages 13, 9, and 2, I can tell you for a fact that baby vs. Right now my husband stays at home, does all the childcare and home chores, which frees me up to work without guilt.
I can go on business trips, work late, or go to an early meeting without worrying about the boys. I have two kids, ages 6 and 3. I stayed home for the first 18 months with the first kid, then went back full time and my husband stayed home for a year.
Then we started the whole daycare thing. Then my second was born and I cut back to 3 days per week, which was nice. I need to figure out how to spin my skills into freelance gigs. I don't nap when my daughter naps. I try to take advantage of those times and do as much work as possible.
That is my time to read or do some work that requires my undivided attention. As my daughter takes a few 2-hour naps, it allows to me to accomplish quite a bit. Writing for several blogs and working on product development presented a huge challenge for me while my daughter was a newborn.
It seemed to me that I could never really catch up on my work. It started to get better when I realized that if I could schedule her naps and schedule my work within her naps. My efficiency improved greatly! Did you leave your to work ?
Workaround the schedule you have set for your newborn or the one they have set for you. If you have the benefit of making your own work schedule, realize that you do have the power to adjust it as needed.
That's a perk of working from home. You really can make the best gains during your newborn's downtime when you just roll with it and stay flexible. When working from home with a newborn recognize that your workday will need to be flexible because a newborn's schedule is unpredictable until you can develop a routine.
It's also very easy to overlap home life with work life, try to keep them separate otherwise you will feel burn out because you will feel like you don't get a break.
So, be sure to give yourself some quiet time every day, even if it is just five minutes. You won't get the long stretches of uninterrupted time you used to get before your little one entered the picture, but you will get some solid chunks of time while he or she naps.
Use this time to do the things you can't do holding your baby, such as interviewing, preparing mailers, or taking notes. Other things, such as keyboarding, can be accomplished with your baby in a sling, so you can save those for when your baby is awake.
I am a work at home mom of five children, including 1-year-old twins. My best advice to work from home successfully with a newborn is to hire a sitter. Though a newborn will sleep throughout most of the day, by six weeks they will start to be awake more and more. Having a sitter allows you to focus on work during working hours so you can accomplish your working goals, giving you more time to focus on your newborn later. Gone are the days of plunking down at the computer for hours of concentration.
With a newborn, you must learn to work in pockets of time, being able to stop quickly and re-engage even faster. The solution may be as simple as jotting a reminder to yourself before getting up from the computer or as detailed as rearranging your work schedule to align with baby's rhythm—catching up on emails while baby plays, conference calls during naps, intense work later at night when baby is down for the night.
I discovered babywearing, which has proven very successful. Early on my daughter loved her Moby, and now is quite fond of her Ergo harness. My little one is content to snuggle, watch the world go by, and nap against daddy's chest for a couple hours at a time. In Home Tutoring of Greensboro. My absolute top tip, both for you and for your baby, is to invest in a good sling or carrier. I have a soft cloth wrap that my 8-week old loves. He sleeps on me in the afternoons when I get a few hours' work done.
I get to keep my business going, and he gets to have a nice warm sleep cuddled up on my chest. Just because you're working at home doesn't mean you should expect to write, make calls, file, and email, all while nursing, burping, or rocking a newborn to sleep.
My best advice is: Schedule a few hours a day for a sitter to literally take the baby off your hands. Even in a small house or apartment, try to work in a different room, or send the baby out for long walks with the sitter. Then put your nose to the grindstone. It will make a world of difference. Forget one of the perks of working in your pajamas-with a home office and a newborn, you have to prepare everything.
I had to modify business hours to focus on family between 7— 9 AM and PM, which means that sometimes I work odd hours late evenings, weekends to accommodate when my kids are awake. It also means that I am more available my West Coast clients since I have later hours.
Get a hands free device for your phone. Be open and honest about the fact that you just had a baby to clients, vendors, etc. People tend to be very understanding and supportive. Don't count on your memory! Keep a to-do or follow-up list for every task that comes up. You will often be interrupted during tasks and may not remember what you were doing when you are free again. It's hard to predict the level of success you can have working at home with a newborn because every newborn has a different personality and set of needs.
Some newborns are independent from the start and thrive simply sitting and playing in your presence. Others need constant stimulation or may have health issues that demand your attention. Depending on the needs of your child, you may only be able to get work done during their naps.
Therefore, you need to go into the situation with an open mind! A couple should discuss what Mom can count on as far as backup support from Dad; a plan that is consistent and doable.
Maybe Dad can always get home early on Wednesdays so that he can take care of the baby starting at 6 pm, for example, so Mom knows that she will always have an evening to catch up.
Being home with a baby never quite goes as one expects. Trying to be an active parent and focused businessperson all in the same minute can make you crazy. Learn to concentrate on one, and then the other. Learn to switch gears quickly, and intentionally. Sometimes your baby will interrupt your focused work. Just step away and return to it when you have taken care of the baby. Trying to do two things at once well can lead you to do them both poorly. Enjoy your baby, look at them, love them.
Put them down to play or sleep and then work hard, and focus. My 1 tip for working at home with a newborn is to work when they are sleeping. Newborns need your full attention when they are awake, and they sleep plenty of hours in the day for you to wait until they sleep. I learned this real quick when continuing to work from home when my nowmonth-old was born. She needed me when awake, and I wanted to cherish that time with her. That could be while the baby sleeps or while someone else is caring for the baby.
If you try to work while taking care of your baby at the same time, both will suffer from your incomplete attention! Have patience with circumstances, with your newborn, with your spouse, and especially with yourself. Patience gives you the time and space to allow yourself to forgive yourself if mistakes are made, and will likewise allow you time for reflection so that the next time will be better — that is, to help you regroup and assess [re-frame] things not as setbacks but as exciting learning experiences.
Moreover, patience allows for better time management and for improved personal esteem. My 1 rule for working at home is time blocking, allowing you to schedule your day as you would in the office. Tim Ferris from the 4 Hour Work Week recommends adding times to your email signature of when people can expect to hear from you. Using time blocks, your family and work community will know what to expect, and you will have a clearer mind.
When we just let the day flow, we often get less accomplished and work longer hours. I find my efficiency to be higher when I schedule work intervals. I do work on my computer while he is up and playing and then when it's nap time I make my phone calls! I get my list of contacts and numbers ready before he lays down, so I have as much time as possible to make calls for follow up or recruiting. It's worked out really well so far!!
I'm Chief Medical Officer for a mobile health monitoring company, requiring that I review documents, write research proposals, correspond with the team, etc. On my chair arms and lap, just in front of my keyboard, sits a Boppy Pillow on which I nurse the baby while using the computer and doing teleconferences speaker phone and mute options help!
Also within reach are: If you can afford help or can take a leave from your business. If not, learn how to run your business with one hand. Do remember that your baby will need a lot of time from you, so inform vendors and clients that your response time might take longer than normal. Also, throw your old schedule out the window and do what I did and work when the baby is sleeping and of course after you take a nap!
I had a baby last July and my saving grace was the independent contractors that I had lined up to help me. Newborns don't stay newborn for very long. My advice is always to enjoy that time as much as you can. And, after childbirth your body needs rest. Even if you can only manage it for a short time, help will make you more focused and more productive.
Newborns sleep a lot. Use half of that time to work and the other half to rest yourself! It's a win-win for you both.
After my first son was born, I quit my full-time job. A couple of years later, SeedMommy was born. I have since had two babies while WAH.
Before you start working from home
Successful strategies for working at home. IN THIS ARTICLE. How can I set a schedule that lets me work but also leaves me time for my family? With a baby in tow, working at home takes on new meaning – and new challenges. Whether you're resuming a freelance career, starting a new one, or telecommuting, you're in good company. In many ways, working from home with a baby or toddler is easier than heading out to an office. But make no mistake, it’s still work and it takes know-how and discipline to pull it off. Here are 15 jobs working with babies: Nanny Nannies care for babies and children in their own home or the family's home. Though most of their time is spent with babies, they may also prepare meals, do light housework and run errands. Child Care Center Owner or Worker You can get lots of hands-on baby time by opening or working at a child.